Before reading my response, please read this article about tattooed women and their lack of class.
Dear Miss Khoury,
I read your article a moment ago about women and tattoos. I disagree with you on a number of points and I feel that you have made some unfair assumptions about some people that are very near and dear to me. As a recipient of many tattoos, I'd like to respectfully share my perspective with you and anybody else that would care to read.
I completely agree that women possess beauty, elegance and class. I think you and I have a different definition of class, however. I define a classy person as being polite, courteous, kind, personable and tactful. Your assumption that women with tattoos do not have these qualities can only be based on either a small number of experiences with people you didn't get along with or based on your own bias. There are quite literally millions of people in this world with tattoos and to assume that all of them lack class is quite frankly, classless.
Don't believe me? Let me introduce you to some people.
First, there's my wife, Tess. She is beautiful, intelligent, kind, generous, compassionate, responsible, creative, elegant, warm and SHE HAS TATTOOS. *gasp* The notion that all of the wonderful things about my wife can be completely obliterated by her tattoos is both misguided and unfortunate. Were you to walk past her on the street, you'd never know the infinite kindness that she shares with everyone she meets. Youd never know that even when she meets a person whom she has little in common, she makes every effort to connect with them. I know you're thinking that I'm biased because I'm her husband, but I encourage you to ask anyone that knows her and they'll tell you the same thing.
Next, I'll introduce you to a good friend of ours. We'll call her K. In addition to her 9-5, she is part of an animal rescue organization, helping animals that have been found wandering on the streets of New Orleans. She takes these helpless critters to the vet to get them healthy. She takes them home to feed them and love them. When they're fully rehabilitated, she finds them a home with a person that she's confident will take the very best care of them. At any given time, K has more than a dozen animals in her apartment that she cares for with a dedication that never ceases to amaze me. K has tattoos. She has many of them. If you were to see her on the street, you'd never know that she makes a hundred sacrifices every day and the only thing she asks for in return is a wagging tail. That is class.
Last but not least, I'll introduce you to my friend, Henry. He's a conservative guy with no tattoos. He's also one of the finest human beings I've ever met. Henry and I don't agree on everything. He and I have very different backgrounds and have very different opinions on a number of topics, but neither of us care. He and I focus on the things that we have in common, not what makes us different. I doubt Henry will ever get a tattoo himself, but mine are a non-issue for him because, among many other things, he has class. That's why I'm proud to call Henry my friend.
I'd also like to say that with all of the things that you've said regarding a person not gaining anything after getting a tattoo, I find it impressive to know that you have personally been present inside the minds of millions of diferent people during every one of their tattoo sessions. Frankly, there's no way for you to know what a tattoo means to somebody. Even though I have ink and I know what my tattoos mean to me, I don't know the first about what somebody else's tattoos mean for them. To assume that a person hasn't gained knowledge, power, self respect or self esteem is to assume that you know everything about every person that has ever gotten a tattoo.
Despite all of this, I'm not mad at you. I don't hate you. I don't even dislike you. I think you've publicly said some things that aren't very kind, but I'm willing to make the positive assumption that your heart was in the right place when you wrote this. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that I think you and I could be friends. There's a catch, though.
If you'd like to gain my friendship just like I hope to gain your's, I invite you to come to Little Rock, Arkansas on July 13th of this year to watch my wife and I get tattoos to commemorate out 5th wedding anniversary. Don't worry, I won't pressure you into gettingone yourself. I just want you to see that just like non-inked people, tattooed people are moral, kind, open and honest. I invite you to walk a mile in our shoes. If you still feel that we're immoral and classless, so be it. If you'd like to take me up on this offer, please use the email link to the left and privately contact me.
Proud Tattoo Collector